Maybe you are afraid to commit? Maybe you like the feeling that you can test the merchandise before you buy? Or maybe, you are like one of my friends whose theory about finding the right one goes, “It’s just like waiting for a bus, another one will always come along.” Your career can start to resemble the dating field, a little uncertain, a little frustrating and sometimes, full of surprises. Not knowing what you are looking for in your next career move is okay. No one said you have to get it right out of the gate. Interviewing until you know what is right for you can resemble dating, but at least at the end of the process you won’t need to worry about who is going to pick up the tab.
Finding your “career-love match” may be a lot easier than finding your soul mate. You don’t have to worry about the possibility of divorce or whether or not to have kids or what your parents might think of your in-laws. What still remains however can be the fear of rejection, intimacy and of course commitment even if you are not sure you have met the “one”. Your career holds all of the same trappings as a blind date or even a good first date. You might like what you see on the outside, but probing further, your career prospects may not hold the charm you were hoping for.
Your career dating takes on a new whole new meaning when you decide what characteristic and attributes you’d like to find in your next job. Should the job be tall or short, dark-haired or blonde, or in real terms should your job allow you creativity, spontaneity or the ability to just phone it in as you feel like. It’s not enough to worry about whether the compensation is what you expect, but taking a deeper look, you want to make certain that you are committing to something you want to wake up to in the next 5 years. The good news about your career vs. your personal relationship is that you don’t have to think in terms longer than 5 years! The commitment you make depends really on you and where you see yourself in the not so distant future.
Your ability to be clear about your career dating allows you to interview without limits. You can go out with all the pretty girls and boys you desire, but in the end it’s up to you to choose whether or not you want to take it to the next level. Your interviewing and career networking operates in much the same way. You can shop until you like what you see and buyers beware on items marked “as-is.” Having the same discernment about your career choices will make your next move more palatable. Your career dating holds the same mystery and excitement as your potentially real dating life. Just don’t stay too long in circulation without making a choice, otherwise you’ll begin to be called a career “player” and no one will take you very seriously when the right job offer comes along.